Title: Discussion Question of the Day!
Glory Braddock - April 16, 2010 05:03 PM (GMT)
Alright, I was riding in the car today listening to the radio and the two morning hosts were talking about unique wedding proposals.
This one guy they had on the phone told them about how he and his never met before. They only knew each other through mail and phone conversations and other methods of communication like that before we had social networking sites like facebook or myspace. (maybe even IM, though I can't remember how long they'd been married, so they may not have had IM back then or not, dunno)
Anyway, point is, he never MET HER face to face and then one day he decided to meet her and....you guessed it.....propose. So the first day he meets her he also proposes and they get married. And they've been happily married for quite a long time supposedly.
My first gut instinct tells me thats insane but one of the hosts made a good point: the way this man did it, he learned to love the person for who they were not for their physical features or assets.
I'm still wary of it but what do you think?
Ambrosia - May 10, 2010 01:39 AM (GMT)
okay, the topic is old and crusty, but I gotta make my 2 cents on this one...
Well, in THIS case, the relationship also brought out certain thing about them that worked for the best. First, they're both internet junkies, so they really didn't have to worry about their communication skills to each other.
I don't really put a lot of trust into relationships in general... the length of a relationship doesn't necessarily judge how successful the relationship is going to be when taken to the next level. I have personally seen two people who 'loved each other, lived with each other for ten years... TEN years! They then got married... and divorced again eight months later.
Two other friends of mine are celebrating their 12 year anniversary, and were married only two months after meeting in my college computer lab.
Angela Jameson - May 10, 2010 07:01 PM (GMT)
My two cents.......
Without getting into too many details (Rick knows the bulk of the story), lets just say that this is a "Been there, done that" type of story for me. I had been friends with this guy I had me through fedding for about seven years, having never met him in person. One day we were talking and it was revealed that both of us had feelings for each other. We met in person for the first time after 3 months of dating via the 'Net, and I actually ended up moving in with him after that first visit. Long story short, things didn't work out and I moved back to Maine. It still is sad to me to this day because he was someone I considered to be my best friend. It'll have been 3 years since the split in December, and at first I wish things were different.............but not anymore. Well wait, I take that back There are certain things I wish were different, but that's another story.
My point is, I wasn't really a believer in the whole "Relationship via the Internet" to begin with, but I gave it a try, it didn't work, and now I'm back to that belief. I'm just not all that positive in long-lasting happiness. Some people may call it being cynical, I just call it having a renewed outlook on things. I'd MUCH prefer meeting in person and getting to know someone that way.
Dazz - May 10, 2010 07:55 PM (GMT)
I remember being part of Chris Jericho's forums for a number of years and there was a couple on there who started dating after talking on the forums, ended up getting married (even had a Y2J themed wedding with the groom dressed as him, coming down the aisle of the church to Jericho's theme song calling everyone assclowns on the way to his bride) and while I haven't been on those boards since 2004, I do remember they were still happily married back then. No clue if they are now.
Personally I prefer talking to people face to face though.
Nash - May 18, 2010 09:35 AM (GMT)
I've only seen this work two out of I lost count how many times, it's too damn common. lol The two exceptions are now married and made the venture across the US or even out of the country. (For real, one girl moved from close to Toronto all the way to Indiana to date him. Supposedly they been engaged for a while. The other actually married and had another kid.) So far they are happy and feel like they are on top of the world. The other failures usually chalk it up to "After so much time away from each other, it's hard to keep the love involved. If I moved over there maybe, but online you're so limited." etc. variations.