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I'm 100% pro - Abortion.
For one, if I was a Women, and was raped, I know I wouldn't want to give brith to some jerks child who overpowered me. And I will not put the child up for adoption, because I will not go through nine months of carrying a child I will not keep for myself, or will probably never see again. At this point in my life, to have to deal with something growing in me for nine months will put a huge damper on my education, on my reputation, and on my mental health. What am I going to do with a child that was the result of a rape? How am I going to support it? What if there are complications because my body is too weak to support the child? What I'm a carrier of some genetic disease and the child will have it? That's great--begrudge me for giving birth to you and then abandoning you, with an added bonus of faulty genes! And I don't even want to imagine giving birth to a stillborn.
Second, Assuming that I do give birth for some bizarre, philanthropic reason and put it up for adoption, will I be able to sleep at night, knowing that a child of mine is out there? Are they okay? Are they being abused somewhere? What if the child starts asking questions, wondering what was wrong with them and why they aren't with their biological parents? And if they are told that the mother didn't want them because they were the result of a rape, how would they take that? Mommy doesn't want me and daddy doesn't even know I exist? I wouldn't want that for myself, much less for anyone else.
To ask someone if they'd rather be aborted than not, if they're better off dead is ridiculous. Hardly anyone will be willing to say that they'd rather be dead than alive--because they've already experienced life, already know what it has to offer. I was supposed to be aborted--would I rather be dead or would I rather be alive, knowing I was going to face things like child abuse, going back and forth between parents and wondering whether they were really fighting for me or fighting for old grudges, bullying at school, an eating disorder...? I don't know. I can't answer that for you because, like I said, I've tasted life, I've already experienced it.
No, I don't think it should be used as a contraceptive for women who are careless, but I don't want to see it being taken away as an option for women who usually are careful and have made the decision to have the abortion just because some person who has the money to throw around and fails to use proper contraceptive keeps getting them. For most women, abortion is NOT an easy decision. Whether they go through with it or not, there is a lot of pain and mulling over things. A lot of women who have had abortions might feel relieved, like they don't have to turn their life upside down for an unwanted child, but I'm not aware of many that didn't feel remorse, that didn't feel sad about the decision, even though they were sure it was for the best. You can't ban a viable option because there are irresponsible women out there..
Better to have abortion legal and done safely than to ban it for people's religious or morally-superior reasons and have women have to turn to back-alley abortions and wire coat hangers, risking infection. There are already many unwanted children; I don't think I would like to add to that population. If/when I have children, I want to be able to see them grow, to raise them in a loving home, to look at them and not feel depressed because their conception was violent and unwanted. I want my children to have a better childhood than mine, and if it means that if I was ever faced with an unwanted pregnancy and have to squash the potential for life that time because I wasn't ready, so be it.
As for a married/devoted couple in considering abortion, in a perfect world, both members would think about it and discuss it with each other, not force opinions either way.
It's a woman's body, and if she has decided to have an abortion, then so be it. Better to abort it early than to birth it and then decide to drown it. No one has the right to use someone else's body against their will--not even an unborn foetus. Perhaps women who are devoted to and sexually involved with a male, who don't want children, should force/convince their boyfriend/husband to get a vasectomy, so the icky thought of an abortion never need come up.
Takes two to tango. Let's not just punish women if we're going to punish at all..
That's just my opinon on the matter.
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